Bettering Yourself – Week 31 – July 29 – Aug 4, 2013 – Stop Having a Big Reaction To a Small Problem

“Don’’t sweat the small stuff – and it’s all small stuff”

Richard Carlson

For this week’s bettering yourself exercise, I am going to stop having a big reaction to a small problem.  Sometimes my thoughts build things up to be more important or than they are, and I start projecting into the future.

This week, by staying in the present, I will work on keeping the  small things small and not give them more importance than they deserve.  I will let you know how it goes next week.

Review of Week 30 – Clear Up My Brain Fog

Zoe is Rocko's girlfriend

Blackberries from Zoe’s owner Gill

For this week’s bettering  yourself exercise, I dined on various healthy foods like wild sockeye salmon, broccoli and blueberries and it helped to clear up my brain fog .

Also, my neighbor Gill gave me a bucket of delicious  fresh blackberries that he picked on his hike to thank me for having his dog Zoe over to play with Rocko.  (She is Rocko’s girlfriend).

Eating healthier made me feel more mental clarity, and improved my  memory.  I also had eough energy to do my all my tasks without feeling sleepy by the evening.

In addition, I drank a lot of water between meals, which also helped.

Summer Beauty

My neighbor Lori came to the door yesterday with this  beautiful bouquet of cut flowers in a vase from her back yard.  

She arranged the stunning bouquet of white hydrangeas to thank me for watching her house and older kids while she was on holiday.

The beauty of summer sharing was expressed in her thoughtful gift.   

Another summer beauty (Rocko)is basking in the sun on the deck. 🙂

Summer's Beauty

Summer Beauty


Bettering Yourself Week 30 – July 22 – Jul 28, 2013 – Clear Up My Brain Fog

Healthy food clears brain fog

healthy food healthy brain

I find the adage “You are what you eat” is true for me.

After I eat greasy, fried foods, or fat laden sweets, my brain seems to fog up.

So for this week’s bettering yourself challenge, I am going to eat healthy foods like fruits and vegetables to clear up my brain fog.

I went on holiday last weekend and I noticed that after eating in restaurants I felt lethargic and forgetful.   I will let you know how I did next week.

Review of Week 29 – Focus on What’s Important to Me

This week, I got a piece of paper and wrote down all the people and animals and things that were most important to me. so I could spend more time focusing on those things and less time on what’s not so important.

During the week, I took small steps towards achieving my goal, and learned that one thing that is important to me is helping others achieve their goals, so I did this as well.

By focusing on what is important to me, I felt more clarity and weeded out things that zap my energy and don’t add value to my life, like watching sports on tv, or searching for items in stores, or juggling too many tasks at once and getting frustrated that I’m not doing any of them well.

I love summer!

I love summer picnic

picnic in Queen’s Park

My brother, my dog Rocko and I enjoyed a picnic on Saturday at Queen’s Park in New Westminster.

That park was full of life, as we strolled around in the summer sun and learned there was a wedding in the Rose Garden, a children’s petting zoo, and a  water park where Rocko stole a drink of water; a boy’s birthday party was set up to the right of us, and an outdoor fitness class started up in the pavilion, as disco music spilled into the air, and a large extended family gathered beside us for a picnic.

Shaded from the hot sun by the tall, mature trees, we ate potato salad and sandwiches, and happy energy abounded as we spent time in nature.

Bettering Yourself – Week 29 – Jul 15-21, 2013 – Decide What’s Important to me, and Focus my Energy on That

At the end of some days, I feel exhausted and scattered, and the reason is that I did nothing that was fulfilling to me, although I may have done a lot of things.

So, for this week’s bettering yourself challenge, I am going to write down what’s most important to me, and focus on doing something each day to consciously nurture at least one person or thing that is most important to me.

You only live once, (YOLO) as my kids say, so I want to make it count.

Review of Week 28 – Dealing With My Plan B

Dealing with plan b

Resilient as a bird


“Life is What Happens to You While You’re Busy Making Other Plans”

John Lennon

For this week’s bettering yourself exercise, I looked at how good I am at dealing with plan b, the unexpected.  I learned that I am much more resilient in mid life in bouncing back after a loss or setback than when I was younger.

I have learned to accept “what is”, with faith that the reason will unfold later, instead of judging an event as “bad”.  Letting go helps the loss fade away faster, and helps you get back to the present moment where everything is alright.

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Bettering Yourself – Week 28 – July 8-14, 2013 – Dealing With My Plan B

On Marilu Henner’s website,, I read this piece of wisdom:

One thing I’ve learned over the years is: “The key to your life is how you deal with Plan B.” You can aim for Plan A. You can arrange for Plan A. But “Plan B” is what actually happens to you. It’s your resilience in being able to roll with the punches and move on to Plan B that really makes your life.

If something doesn’t work out, you can’t automatically think that something bad has happened. You never know why things happen the way they do, but that’s life. That’s how it unfolds. When faced with Plan B, don’t feel you have to be dragged kicking and screaming into it because, sometimes, “Plan B” is so much better. This is definitely the number one theory I live by. It all comes down to resilience.

My bettering yourself challenge for this week, I am going to figure out how I am dealing with my Plan B.





Review of Week 27 – Watching My Thoughts


For this week’s bettering yourself challenge,  Watching my Thoughts, I learned that my thoughts are more positive when I trust in my nature, like Wayne Dyer says.  My own nature knows who I am and why I am here, but when I don’t  trust my nature,   fear and frustration creep into my thoughts.

When we let go of the need to control ourselves or others, or our attachment to things, we are  free.  When our thoughts are free from attachments, we can be ourselves instead of being in reaction mode.

We came into the world not controlling ourselves and everything worked out. We also came with nothing, and will leave with nothing, so letting go of our attachment to things is freeing, and knowing we can change our thoughts to align with our true nature leads to peace.

Bettering Yourself Week 27 – Jul 1 – 7, 2013 – Watching My Thoughts

Watching my thoughts“Change your thoughts, change your life”  


This quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer, has inspired this weeks’ bettering yourself challenge.  I am going to watch the many thoughts I think each day and see how those thoughts are creating my life.

It doesn’t mean that a thought is true because it pops into my head. By rising above the level of thought by being silent, I will watch how my thoughts are only thoughts, and not necessarily reality.

My thoughts are only a judgement of a situation and they may be completely inaccurate, as I may not have all  the information necessary to make that judgement, so I am going to reserve  judgement of others and myself this week and be more compassionate to our challenges.

I will let you know how it goes next week.

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Review of week 26 – Cleaning out my closets

I made many discoveries while cleaning out my closets for this week’s bettering yourself exercise.  I found my lucky shamrock key chain from The Flamingo Hilton in Reno, an anniversary card from someone who has passed away, and some pants that were too tight.  By going through these items it helped me remember the past and the people that shared it with me, but by getting rid of the stuff, it helps me move forward into the present.