Bettering Yourself – Week 41- Sept 30 – Oct 6, 2013 Make My Tomorrows Magnificent

Make your tomorrows magnificent

Make your tomorrows magnificent today!

“Whatever feelings you have in you are attracting your tomorrow”

This week I am going to re-read “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne, and work on attracting more of what I want in life.

I have read the book many times, and am familiar with the law of attraction that the book is based on, but I haven’t observed what my ‘feelings’ today say about tomorrow.

Rhonda says by being grateful for what we already have is the first step in the process to attracting more good in our lives, and that feeling of gratitude attracts more good to us.

What if we could make all of our tomorrows magnificent?

This week, I am going to use the  teachings of the secret to observe my feelings, and put the program into action in my daily life.  I will let you know how it goes next week.


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Review of Week 40 – Bettering Yourself – To See The Best in Others


“When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.” -William Arthur Ward

Researching this topic captivated me so much that I wrote a separate blog entry about it.  Seeing the best in others and yourself makes all your relationships better.

I discovered that I needed to stop judging others and myself.  Choosing to interpret my relationships in a positive non-judgmental way improves all my relationships.

I saw the best in others this week on so many occasions – in my family who are willing to pitch in and help when I ask.  In my neighbours across the street who were trimming the hedges and making the garden look nice for everyone to enjoy, and the teachers and students who were helping my son and I carry and set up sound and lighting gear for the pep rally.


Top 5 Tips To Better Your Relationships


Being positive about others makes us positive about ourselves

You may have read other tips about improving your relationships, but more than likely they haven’t even scratched the surface of how to improve them. These aren’t superficial tips about getting people to like you on the surface. This list goes deeper inside yourself to better your relationships.  I spent the past week studying relationships and learning how to optimize them by looking to myself for the answers.  It wasn’t easy to try and change the way I think about my relationships, in fact, it was exhausting.  I learned that when I make judgments about what people say and do, I may be misinterpreting them, and to stop judging them and give them the benefit of the doubt is necessary.


See the Best in Others

1.  See the Best in Yourself 

To see the best in others, you have to uncover the goodness in yourself.  People are like a mirror reflecting back to us, and goodness attracts goodness.  To paraphrase Wayne Dyer – other people’s behavior belongs to them, it is your choice how to relate to them.


2. Care About others

When you care about people, you bring out their good qualities, and feel connected to them, even if you haven’t met them.  I recently read J.K. Rowling’s book for adults called “Casual Vacancy” and I admired her writing as I read each page.  I also admire her for starting a charity for abused children, which is a main theme in the book.  This connected me with her writing, and helped me enjoy her book.


3. Praise and Compliment Others    

It takes understanding to refrain from judging others.  But praising and complimenting what they do right makes them feel good and inspires them to change.  It also increases our self- love  when we stop judging ourselves.


4. It’s a Conscious Choice to Always Look For the Best in Others.

It is a choice to see the best in others. I have been giving more weight to the positive thoughts about people than the negative ones.  It’s not easy, because old patterns of thinking become entrenched.  I want to make a habit of seeing the best in others, and changing the way I relate to them is the best way to do it.

For instance, my son forgot to take out the garbage the other day, but instead of nagging him, I felt grateful that he took Rocko out to the bathroom at 1am, and allowed me to stay in bed.   My good feelings about my son made me forget about taking out the garbage.

As Wayne Dyer says:  “How you choose to interpret people and your relationships makes a huge Difference”


5. Let Go Of the Negative Shared Past With People

Sometimes we decide to walk away from certain people because involvement with them is too painful.  But it’s even difficult to see the good in people that we spend a lot of time with.  As is often pointed out, judging people says more about you than them.  We can choose to let go of the negative feelings from the past, and start fresh, with a more positive interpretation of them today, but we have to work at it.

By accepting people as they are in the present moment, and detaching from the past, we can see their innate goodness.  Like us, they are a field of energy that is constantly changing and evolving.


Only by loving ourselves, can we extend encouragement to others.  Believing in the good in others makes us a better person who is conscious of the possibility of seeing the good in everyone, and creating oneness, which is love.

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Week 40 – Bettering Yourself – Sept 23 – Sept 29, 2013 – To See The Best in Others

See the best in others

Look for the best and you will see it

For this week’s bettering yourself exercise, I am going to see the best in others.

Each person that I encounter this week, I am going to focus on seeing their best qualities.

I will let you know how it goes next week.

Review of Week 39 – Bettering Yourself – Do Something Creative Every Day

For this week’s bettering yourself exercise, I did something creative each day.  My inspiration for this topic came from Deepak Chopra and Rudoff Tanzi’s book “Superbrain” about ways to inspire your brain.

How to inspire your brain

Take care of stress. Avoid dulling routine. Do something creative every day. Read poetry, spiritual material or anything else that makes you feel uplifted. Take time to be in nature. Bond with another person who is heartwarming.  Pay attention to being happy. Make sure you take time every day by yourself to relax, meditate and self-reflect. Deal with negative emotions like anger and anxiety. Focus on activity that makes you feel fulfilled. Give of yourself. Follow a personal vision. Attach yourself to a cause that is bigger than you are. Take the risk to love and be loved.

Deepak Chopra – book Superbrain written with Rudoff Tanzi

This week I picked a brain inspiring creative activity each day:  I was studying spirituality and taking notes, helping with a construction project, writing, reading inspirational material, reflecting on my personal experience on a topic, walking Rocko, helping set up music gear for a dance, and experimenting with waffle recipes.

These creative activities were hard work, but energized me, unlike dull routine tasks that zap my energy.

Remember To Stretch Your Body

Dogs know that stretching is necessary

Rocko stretches

My husband’s back was feeling sore, so he went to The Back Institute, and a chiropractor there has been helping him loosen the muscles in his back.

He told him to remember to stretch 3 times a day.  It’s a simple way to keep his back feeling looser.

When I came back home with the groceries today, my dog Rocko was stretching on the couch (see photo).  He always remembers to stretch his body, it is second nature to him.

The stretch my husband does to loosen his back muscles is: he lies on his back and pulls one knee up and holds it in his hand for a count of ten.  Then he brings his knee across to the other side of his body and looks in the opposite direction, and repeats on the other side.

Best Warm Spiced Indian Chai Tea Recipe

chai tea for health and comfort

Chai tea – delicious, warm and healthy

Tomorrow is the last day of summer, and as temperatures begin to cool, warm chai tea is the perfect comfort beverage to ease us into Fall.

This Ayurveda inspired herbal tea has health benefits and tastes delicious!

Cardamom and cinnamon both have therapeutic qualities.  While cardamom helps with asthma, aids digestion and eliminates toxins, cinnamon lowers blood sugar and cholesterol, and aid in arthritis.  You may add ground cloves if you choose, which also boost immunities.


½      c    Tazo Chai latte beverage from Starbucks or Costco, (or 2 t sugar)

1       c    milk

1      c    Water

½t    ground cardamom

1      Teabag   (chai or any other type)

¼ t   ground cinnamon


In a pot, boil the milk, water, cinnamon, and cardamom.  Add the teabag, and continue to boil for a few minutes.   Strain and enjoy!

You can adjust the spice levels depending on your taste, or add sugar or whipped cream.

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Week 39 – Sept 16-22, 2013 – Bettering Yourself – Do Something Creative Every Day

For this week’s bettering yourself exercise, I am going to slip away from my routine activities each day, and do something creative every day to inspire my brain.  By using my imagination, I am going to unlock my creative potential and lose some stress by choosing an activity to do daily that is creative.  I will let you know how it goes next week.

Review of week 38 – Appreciating All The Beauty Around Me Each Day

This past week I took the time to appreciate the beauty that is around me each day.  I was appreciating the beauty in the record breaking warm temperatures, and also the cooler air in the evenings which created the perfect sleeping temperature.

I was also appreciating the beauty of the little bright green bird that hit my window and landed in a little hammock in my yard after falling.  Watching over it, its’ little eyes  looked up at me as it turned its’ head, unable to fly away, until an hour later when it flew 20 feet up into the air and landed on a branch in the cedar tree.

I appreciated the beauty of the baby in the stroller at the Walmart check-out who returned my smiles with huge smiles of his own.

I appreciated the beauty of my one year old great nephew playing drums in a video that was sent to me.

It cheered me up to focus on the beautiful things around me more.