Finding, Enjoying and Sharing Your Purpose

Pursue your dreams

Pursue your Dreams

                                            There are two great days in a person’s life –

                                     the day we are born, and the day we discover why.

                                      William Barkley

 

We are born with a purpose in life, and part of our journey is to find out what it is. We find it by looking inside, and listening to the voice that tells us why we are here, and we will no longer need to search for it – it will find us.

 

It will find us when:

We are doing what we enjoy,

And doing what we are good at,

And what empowers us,

Uplifts us,

inspires us,

and makes us feel alive.

Some people don’t pursue what they were born to do – life happens to them; and they get discouraged by it and put their dreams aside, or they put other’s expectations of them first, or seek fulfillment with distractions – overeating, or working too much, but these activities aren’t meaningful so they don’t find lasting fulfillment.

Much has been written about finding your purpose:

Tony Robbins says:  “you have to decide what’s important to you, and put that first, and create a vision for yourself.  He says being too busy means ‘managing your pain’, but the real way out of pain is giving.  That is when your life matters to more than yourself.  He says the best time to give is when you have nothing.  It’s like planting a seed when you have very little left, and something starts to grow.”

“What will put life in perspective is to constantly do something as a ritual, to serve somebody in worse shape than you are; there is no greater way to put perspective in your life. I call it ‘I have no problems day’.   It’s about doing something for someone who is worse off than you.” – TR

The Dalai Lama says:  “the purpose of life is to be happy” and that caring for others has the added benefit of increasing our own wellbeing and bringing us inner peace.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said: “The crowning fortune of a man (or woman*) is to be born to some pursuit which finds him employment and happiness, whether it be to make baskets, or broadswords, or canals, or statues, or songs.”

Joseph Campbell called it “finding your bliss”.  To fulfill your purpose in life requires persistence on your part.  When you face setbacks, you must have faith in yourself, and not listen to other people tell you that you  cannot do something when you know you can.  Only you know what your purpose is, it comes from inside you, so you are the expert on this one.

Some people recognize their purpose early in life, and a beautiful flame is lit inside them, which fuels their inner peace and purpose.  Their talent continues to develop and expands from helping themselves to helping others.

You are here for a reason

You are here for a reason

When I was young, I dreamed of being a writer and someone told me writing was for middle aged men with a lot of life experience.  I”m glad I didn’t listen to him or I wouldn’t have had articles published, or ran a resume writing business, or worked for a newspaper writing ads and articles, or taught essay writing, or written this blog, which I enjoy.

Following your dreams takes persistence.  Circumstances and people don’t always support you, and every artist creating their path has faced setbacks.  The Beatles pursued their purpose with persistence, despite every record company that they approached at first turning them down.  Once they signed a recording contract, they went on to become one of the best bands of all time.  Likewise, JK Rowling was initially rejected by all the publishing houses she took her Harry Potter books to.  But once a publisher signed her on, those books became one of the best- selling series of books of all time.  Both The Beatles and Joanne Rowling had faith in their ability and persistently pursued their goals.

The moment you decide to take the first step towards your dreams, then take a step to start creating your unique path, you are on your way.  Doors open for you, your fears recede, and your doubts evaporate.   You no longer feel that you don’t have enough talent or time to pursue your dreams, because time will disappear when you are having fun.

We think we are physical beings, and look outside ourselves to find our purpose, but we are actually spiritual beings who can look inside ourselves to find what is right for us, as unique individuals.

Eckhart Tolle says: “awakening to your life’s purpose involves serving yourself and others in some way.  When you use your special talents and gifts to contribute to the world, the power will come through you like a light, that only you know is shining through you, and you will feel great presence with what you are doing and will really enjoy it.”

Eckhart says: “it is not based on desire, or the ego, but it is based on enjoyment” and you are totally present when doing it.

 

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Optimizing Yourself – Week 49 – Nov 25 – Dec 1, 2013 – Feng Shui Winter Clutter Clearing

Feng Shui

Flowers add fresh energy to your home

For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I am going to do the feng shui exercise of going through each room and filling up a bag to give away, sell, or recycle.  The goal of filling a bag per room will help me identify which items I don’t use, don’t like, or don’t have a place for.

In Feng shui, clutter is defined as low, stagnant, blocked energy that drains energy from you and lowers the quality of your life.  Clutter doesn’t have to be overriding your house to be in need of clearing, it is about clearing things that aren’t serving you, and are hurting the flow of energy or (chi) in your space.

You must bring good energy to clear the clutter, such as beautiful lighting, fresh flowers, open windows to introduce new energy, music that you like, and a burning candle for the clutter clearing session.  You can’t clear stagnant energy if you are frustrated or angry; it should be a fun and easy experience, where you can look forward to treating yourself to a nice warm cup of coffee or tea when you are finished.  I will let you know how it goes next week.

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Review of Week 48 – Optimizing Yourself – Getting Ready for Christmas

Tree Lit Up

For this week’s Optimizing Yourself exercise, I followed my plan to get ready for Christmas early, and got a lot accomplished. Starting early gave me time to sort through the decorations in the boxes in the attic. Over the years I have collected too many decorations, so I was able to give the ones I no longer needed to my son’s girlfriend to put on her Christmas tree, and I gave the rest to my husband to put on his tree at work. This freed up some storage space in the attic.

Garland of Christmas Bulbs

Making a garland of Christmas Bulbs

When my youngest son saw all the decorations boxes in the living room, he set up our artificial tree and put the lights and decorations on it for me. I bought the tree for $50 at The Real Canadian Superstore 20 years ago and have set it up every year since. It is a little sparse, but with 200 lights and 100 ornaments on it, it looks full. I bought some wire from the dollar store and strung some bulbs on the wire, making a garland that goes around the tree. This saves time when decorating, and it also prevents the ornaments from falling off the tree when my dog Rocko brushes up against it.

 

Favorite Practical Christmas Gifts

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Practical Christmas gifts are useful


This year I am simplifying my Christmas gift shopping list and buying PRACTICAL gifts. These are the tools that the people on my list will use every day to help them feel or look better, be safe, comfortable, happier, healthier, inspired, warmer, cleaner, well groomed, organized, dryer, relaxed, entertained, and developed. This is an all-ages list of Christmas gifts that are helpful, safe, fun and healthy.

On-line surveys show that when people were asked what some of the favorite gifts they received were, they were practical items. They said at first they thought they were frankly, a little dull. When they first opened them, they thought they were a bit mundane, but, years later, they were still using the gift, and remembering the thoughtfulness of the giver.

Some gifts that Topped the list of favorite Practical Christmas Gifts were: vacuum cleaners, mini vacuum cleaners, frying pans, knife sets, cordless drills and Cuisinart machines. I can see why Canadian Tire is such a zoo before the holidays.

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Practical Christmas gifts get used for years


favorite practical Christmas gifts

My Dog Rocko received his favorite sweater for a Christmas gift


You can always sprinkle whimsical gifts in between the practical, such as a pair of eyelashes for your daughter’s car headlights, but do consider going practical. All these gifts can be purchased in a one stop, big box or department store, and you won’t be on a goose chase until Christmas Eve, sitting in traffic, waiting in multiple lines, or battling for a parking spot.
You can even stock up on some of these items, and place them in a gift closet so they are handy if you want to give a gift to the newspaper carrier, the letter carrier or school playground supervisor.

Favorite Practical Household or Family Gifts:

Clip-on Flashlight
Spice rack
Cookbook
Honey, or assorted jam basket
Tea basket – herbal teas, mugs, honey, spoons
Water filtration pitcher or water purifier
Air purifier
Grocery store gift card
Fancy Towels
Vacuum
Smoke detectors with batteries
Floor Fan
Dish cloths/ tea towels/ oven mitts

Favorite Practical Personal Gifts:

Movie passes
Magazines
Money Clip (With money)
Slippers
Bath robe
Re-usable Water bottle
Books- inspirational books (such as from Hay House Publishing)
Roadside Emergency Kit
New pillows
First Aid Kit
Comforter
Electric blanket
Hair dryer
Spa gift certificate
Comb and brush set
Manicure set
Umbrella
Classic Style Sunglasses
Steel comb – never needs replacing

While it may take a while for these timeless practical gifts to become favorite gifts, these are the gifts that keep on giving, and won’t end up being sold in your friend’s next garage sale.

photo credits: Morguefile & Ann Hoy
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Week 48 – Optimizing Yourself – Get Ready For Christmas – Nov 18 – Nov 24, 2013

I love Christmas, but I sometimes find all the preparations a little overwhelming. I can understand how people dread the holidays if they’re not ready. I feel that this week is the perfect time to prepare, not too early, not too late. The lady that lives behind me put up her Christmas tree two weeks ago!

dinners and parties at Christmas

Getting ready for dinners and parties at Christmas

So, With a little over a month to go before Christmas, for this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I am going to get ready for it early, so I reduce the stress that comes with leaving it to the last minute.

Get Ready for Christmas

Get Ready for Christmas


Here’s my plan:

– Get the decorations out of the attic, sort through them and decide what to use this year
– Put up Christmas lights
– Decide on a holiday budget for gifts and food
– Make a gift list, and buy what I can now
– Write out Christmas cards so they’re ready to send in early December
– Clean out the fridge and freezer to prepare for storing all the extra food over the holidays
– Set up a gift wrapping and card writing center in the corner of the kitchen by the window
– Go through my closet and get my clothes ready for attending parties and gatherings
– Stock up on household staples such as dishwash detergent, toilet paper, paper towels, batteries, bread, napkins and beverages.

outdoor Christmas decorations

Getting Outdoor Christmas Decorations ready

By getting organized now, I will feel better when the crunch hits in December, and can avoid waiting in some long line-ups at stores, or searching for a parking spot. I will let you know how it goes next week.

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Review of Week 47 – Optimizing Yourself – Take Some Time “To Be”

For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I took some time “to be”, and felt my energy return.

Last week I knew I was physically tired from staying up late, but I didn’t realize I was mentally tired. I was researching for a project, and it took longer than I expected, then I didn’t get the project finished, so my negative feelings about it made me more tired.

As Dr. Bruce Lipton says, our brain uses ¼ of our energy.*

Once I took some time “to be”, my positive energy returned, and I was ready to tackle the project with confidence that I would get it done.

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Optimizing Yourself – Week 47 – Nov 11 – 17, 2013 Take Some Time “To Be”

Relaxing

Take time “To Be”

When the weather turns cold and dark, I miss the light and warmth and sunshine, and my energy and immunities dip, and the way to make myself feel better is to take some time to be.

Last week I was busy dealing with cars – selling one, buying another one, and having another one overhauled, as well as dog sitting and having an electrician working in the house, so it’s time to relax this week.

I am not even going to feel lazy for taking it easy. I am not going to feel guilty for sitting on the couch wrapped in a blanket staring out the window, when I could be doing some vacuuming.

I feel that if I work harder, stay up later, and get up earlier, I will get it all done, but I don’t get it all done, and find that taking some time to simply “be” is the cure. This week I am going to take some time “to be”, and I will let you know how it goes next week.

Review of Week 46 – Optimizing Yourself – Create a Wealthy Consciousness

wealth consciousness

A Wealthy Consciousness

Is it possible to get rich by thinking rich? Changing your thoughts, doing things in a certain way, and having faith that you will succeed are also key ingredients, according to Wallace Wattle’s book “The Science of Getting Rich” which I read for this week’s optimizing yourself exercise. The practical advice in this book still rings true, although it was written over 100 years ago. He says the desire to get rich is the desire for a richer fuller more abundant life, which is everybody’s right. Having money allows you to do what you want, by giving you the tools and resources you need to live a fuller, richer life.

Wattles inspires you to become all you want to be, and it is your right to develop yourself to the best of your ability, using his technique of creative visualization or “forming a mental picture” of what you want.

Wattles says: “… everything that lives has an inalienable right to all the development it is capable of attaining. Man’s (or woman’s)* right to life means their right to have the free and unrestricted use of all the things which may be necessary to their mental, spiritual, and physical unfoldment; or, in other words, their right to be rich.”

Reading Wattles book is what inspired Rhonda Byrne to write “The Secret”, and it is about the law of attraction. Wattles lays out the proper kind of thinking and the specific actions that need to be taken to attract money. He says doing things in a certain way is practicing the kind of behaviors, like gratitude, using your willpower upon yourself, not others, and taking efficient action allow the law of attraction to work for you.

The steps to getting what you want include changing your thoughts and breaking out of the myths and mental patterns that may be impoverishing you. To create a wealthy consciousness, form a mental picture” of what you want, and don’t think about what you don’t want. He says “think of wealth, not poverty. Think about what you want to attract to you, and take action every day to successfully get what you want. Speak about what you want, and don’t complain or criticize, only focus on the good things that you want to have coming your way. Be grateful and thank God for the beautiful things you already have.”

But forming a mental picture is not enough, you must have faith that you will succeed, and take appropriate action to achieve your goal. And, in your dealings with others, give more value than you get, not monetary value, but more use value or help value, and be uplifting and make a personal connection with every man woman and child that you encounter. Also, be positive and aware that everything is working to help you.

By continuing to study the principles in this book, I am creating a wealthy consciousness.

*woman has been added for the purposes of this blog.

A Different View of Remembrance Day

Remembrance Day

WWII Navy Recruitment Poster

On Remembrance Day, many Canadians observe a moment of silence on the eleventh hour on the eleventh day of the eleventh month, to remember the sacrifices of all those who served in wars, so that we could have peace.

Honoring our veterans

Honoring our veterans


I am grateful for all who served. On a personal note, my dad fought in WWII, and my paternal grandpa, fought in WWI.

I am grateful for The Royal Canadian Legion, an organization which has done so much to support veterans and their families over the years by giving them a place to gather. In the days before the diagnosis of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), those veterans, like my dad, who would wake up in the middle of the night drenched in sweat from their war flashbacks, could go to the local legion and talk with comrades who had faced similar experiences.

Royal Canadian Legion

The Royal Canadian Legion supports veterans and their families


I am grateful for the scholarship I received from The Legion to attend UBC. The Legion preserves the memory of those who served each year, with Remembrance Day ceremonies at cenotaphs, where they lay wreaths decorated with poppies to remember those who fought against tyranny so we could have freedom.

I am grateful for The Canadian Government for giving veterans retirement pensions, and developing a Veterans Housing Program through CMHC (Canadian Mortgage and Housing Corporation) giving returning veterans the opportunity to purchase an affordable house. My mom and dad purchased my childhood home in South Vancouver through the veterans housing program.

Today, as the number of surviving veterans is dwindling, and their children, the baby boomers are becoming seniors, we will be passing the torch to the younger generation, who may not know relatives who were personally involved in a war. To ensure the sacrifices of the veterans were not in vain, in a peace keeping country like Canada, together we can consciously work on achieving lasting world peace in the veteran’s honor.

Peace is a feeling that starts in our own hearts and spreads to those around us.

world peace

World peace to honor their sacrifice

The Dalai Lama says peace will only be temporary unless people and nations can build genuine trust.

He is “deeply opposed to war”, but doesn’t advocate appeasement. “It is often necessary to take a strong stand to counter unjust aggression, such as in the Second World War, but it’s best to avoid war if at all possible… As long as adversaries don’t trust each other any number of factors can upset the balance of power…Lasting peace can be secured only on the basis of genuine trust, he says.

Please take a moment this Monday to remember.

This peace poem was written in the 6th Century BC by Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu:

If there is to be peace in the world,

There must be peace in the nations.

If there is to be peace in the nations,

There must be peace in the cities.

If there is to be peace in the cities,

There must be peace between neighbors.

If there is to be peace between neighbors,

There must be peace in the home.

If there is to be peace in the home,

There must be peace in the heart.

Wishing peace to all of you. Ann Hoy

http://www.dalailama.com/messages/world-peace/the-reality-of-war
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Christmas Outdoor Containers

An entrance door flanked by themed Christmas containers, announces the season to all, and welcomes holiday visitors to your home. Arranged with evergreen boughs and seasonal accents, festive planters blend the spirit of the garden with the spirit of the holiday season.

Optimizing Yourself – Week 46 – Nov 4- Nov 10, 2013 – Create a Wealthy Consciousness

wealth consciousness

A Wealthy Consciousness

This week I will study how to create a wealthy consciousness by reading the book “The Science of Getting Rich”, which inspired Rhonda Byrne to write “The Secret”.

Rhonda’s daughter gave her the book, written by Wallace Wattles in 1910, to help her recover from her breakdown. It became her inspiration to write the incredibly successful movie and book called “The Secret”.

I will let you know how it goes next week as I work on breaking out of the myths and mental patterns that may be impoverishing me.

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