52 Weeks to Optimizing Yourself – Week 4 – Go BIG With Going With The Flow

 

Go BIG with the flow

Go BIG with the flow

For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I am going BIG with going with the flow…

I have a positive vibe this week, and I won a contest!!

I AM going to have lunch with W. Brett Wilson, formerly of The Dragon’s Den reality tv show, at an undisclosed location in Vancouver next month.  He is one of Canada’s most successful entrepreneurs and philanthropists.

I AM preparing a question to ask Brett at the luncheon, as are each of the 8 winners

I AM reading Brett’s book “Redefining Success” which I purchased this week, so I can review it on my blog

I AM preparing for my goal of taking my blog on a road trip in the next few months to interact with the community, and this is a great opportunity to do that.

I will let you know how this week’s going BIG with going with the flow goes next week.

Review of Week 3 – Go BIG With Gaining Patience

Going Big With Patience

Going Big With Patience

 

Webster’s dictionary defines patience as “persevering in the face of delay.”

This week I went BIG with gaining more patience, and learned why patience is a virtue.  We aren’t born patient, it is a skill we can learn and develop, and it builds character.  By choosing to not go for the small reward, or instant gratification now, we hold out for a more valuable reward, or delayed gratification later, and remain positive while waiting for it.

I was already patient with waiting for my turn in line, or waiting for the thermometer to reach 170 degrees celsius before taking the turkey out of the oven.  But to go BIG with patience, I worked on gaining patience with unforeseen delays – like delayed airline flights, or having to wait five days for the drywall mud to dry.  And mainly, when I forget to do something and it causes a delay.

By slowing down the pace, I realized that delays are a normal part of life, and everything will eventually get done, and by being patient with myself and others I am able to deal with delays ‘when’ and not ‘if’ they occur.

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52 Weeks to Optimizing Yourself 2014 – Week 3 – Go BIG With Gaining Patience

 

Gaining Patience

Gaining Patience

This week I am going to turn off my cell phone and computer for 10 minutes each day, and carve out an area for myself where I can sit and peacefully meditate on gaining patience in my life. 

Each day this week, as I breathe in and out, under the window where the sun shines down, I will connect to the big picture, and imagine a life that is not a rush, and where I have plenty of time to do everything I want to do.

As I go BIG on gaining patience, I am going to sit on soft pillows on the floor and get calm. My goal is to create a big space in my life for patience with myself and others.  I will let you know how it goes next week.

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Review of Week 2 – Thinking BIG with My Household Skills

 

Cooking for the week on one day

Cooking our meals for a week on one day

 

 

Bulking up on fruits and veggies

Bulking up on fruits and veggies

This week, I went BIG with my household skills associated with meal planning and preparation:  making a grocery list and planning the meals for one week, shopping, preparing the ingredients, cooking the food and cleaning up the dishes and kitchen. 

I did a bulk grocery shop at Costco, and then went to the farm market to buy fruits and vegetables.  Making multiple meals at once, and freezing some for the rest of the week saves time in terms of shopping, cooking and cleaning.  Getting bulk pricing also saves money, and saves making multiple trips to the store.  It is also healthier and tastier to freeze home cooked meals rather than buying frozen meals.

It’s easy cooking everything at once, because you already have all the ingredients and tools out, such as knives and cutting boards, oil and pots, and you are already working at the stove, so it’s not that difficult to stir a few more pots at the same time.  You can also wash all the dishes and wipe up the stove and counters in one go.

This week by cooking lasagna, spaghetti, chicken stir fry, and pizza all at once, I saved time, effort, and money, and went BIG with a big household skill. It is a great new habit to form for those weeks when the family is super busy and need some quick lunches and dinners to heat up.

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It’s How You Do The Job, Not What Job You Do

 

It's How You Do The Job
Resumes Highlight Your Skills and Abilities

Years ago, I ran a resume writing business, and many of my clients had lost their jobs.  The upshot of losing their employment was that many of them lost their self-confidence as well.

They had identified themselves with their profession, and losing it made them feel dejected.  From my  client who had worked at Tim Horton’s, to my client who was the television announcer for Molson’s Hockey Night In Canada, (and was off during the strike), it wasn’t WHAT job they did, but HOW they did it, and how it made them FEEL, that was most important.

As I compiled their skills and abilities on their resumes, and restored the client’s glass half full mentality, they grew more optimistic about selling themselves at job interviews to prospective employers.   It was easier to find a job with a positive emotional state.

One of my clients had experience as a janitor, but his dream job was to be a karate instructor, and he had taken karate classes for ten years.  We designed his resume to showcase his work experience, but also his karate experience, so he could work as a janitor, and train to teach at a dojo also.  His attitude about his job search improved immediately, having taken a small step towards finding his dream job.

It was the clients who envisioned their dream job, when applying for jobs, who felt motivated to excel at whatever job they got.

Even the simplest job can be done with passion, quality workmanship and love, in the spirit of service to others.   The following story illustrates that HOW you do the job is more important than WHAT job you are doing.

An old story tells of three stonecutters who were asked what they were doing. The first replied, ‘I am making a living.’ The second kept on hammering while he said, ‘I am doing the best job of stonecutting in the entire country.’ The third one looked up with a visionary gleam in his eyes and said, ‘I am building a cathedral.’

The first stonecutter is working to earn his pay for his labour.  The second stonecutter continues to hammer while saying he is driven to be the best stonecutter in the country.  But cutting the stone is his ultimate goal, without regard for the reason he is cutting it.   The third has a vision – he recognizes the significance in the task of creating a cathedral.  He sees the big picture and how his contribution connects him to his community.  Enhancing the spiritual lives of the residents fulfills him, and the fruits of his labour of love extend beyond benefiting himself, to benefiting future generations, long after he is gone. He puts his heart into cutting the stones, with an understanding of WHY he is cutting them.

 

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52 Weeks to Optimizing Yourself 2014 – Week Two – Thinking Big With My Household Skills

 

Thinking big with my household skills

Buying In Bulk

This week I am going to find ways to think big with my household skills.  By stockpiling supplies,  buying in bulk, and cooking multiple meals so I can freeze some for later, I am going to go big with saving time and effort on grocery shopping and cooking.  I am also going to search for other ways to go big with my household skills.  I will let you know how it goes next week

Review of Week One – Thinking Big With My Career

For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I read the book “I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This’, by Kate White, editor of Cosmo, and learned to think big with my career plans with tips on going big with negotiating, managing, business practices, and standing out from the crowd.  I also learned the importance of going big with small details, like dress, accessories and stationary.

I also took Kate’s advice and joined Linkedin, and found a conference to sign up for, which I can blog about.  From bold moves on improving my blog and website, and improving the graphic design, to big ideas on brand identity, how- tos on  jazzy bios, visual promotion, press and marketing, I learned a big lesson on expansion.

Changing from small thinking to big thinking with my career this week made for a productive week in a BIG way! 

 

The Solution to Your Problems is Within You

Solutions are Within You

Solutions are Within You

 

Most of our problems exist in our minds, and are self-created. When we obsess about them, we allow them to rent space in our heads,where they germinate, and spring up in our words and actions. Here are some ways to uproot the weeds of problems before they take over your contentment:

Live in The Present:
It’s not so much the problem, but our thoughts about the problem that hurt us. Everything is fine in the present moment, but if we dwell on the past, or feel anxious about the future, we sow the seeds of unhappiness. When an issue arises, our memory automatically calls up information that is relevant to it, and we see it the same way again, according to Psychology Today. Reset your brain to the present, and describe the issue in a different way, and you will find a new solution.

“Our problems are man-made, therefore they may be solved by man. And man can be as big as he wants. No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings.”
John F. Kennedy

Maintain a Positive CAN Do outlook:
Problems are small leaks that you can quickly patch and forgive, and return to steering the ship towards your dream life. Focus on what you CAN change in life, and change it. Often it’s when you’re in the shower, or doing something that doesn’t require too much mental activity, and your mind is relaxed, that a brilliant and creative solution comes to you.

Change Your Attitude:

Framing an issue as good or bad depends on your attitude about it. If a problem occurs, instead of reacting emotionally, look for the cause, as that’s where the solution lies. Many problems arise from a misunderstanding on both sides, including yours. Saying things out of emotion can destroy a friendship of many years. Emotions are felt in your body – jealousy shows up in your stomach as a burning sensation; anger makes your head feel hot. Detach from your thoughts, and return to positive energy and respond from love.

Sleep on It:
A problem seems worse if you are in a bad state of mind. If you are tired, or in a low mood, step back, go for a walk in nature, take a nap, or get a good sleep, and respond with care once you feel rested. If you look for the good in a situation, you will find it; and it’s impossible to feel miserable when you focus on your blessings.

A problem may be a blessing in disguise if there is a lesson to learn, or if you learn to work around problems. You may learn that you are taking yourself too seriously. In hindsight, some of your biggest laughs will come from things you once considered as problems.

John Lennon said: “There are no problems, only solutions.”


Seek the Solution:
Seeking a solution attracts a solution to you. You deserve happiness, and solutions, not problems. You are responsible for your happiness, and instead of dwelling on problems in your mind, get out of your mind, and feel the love and forgiveness in your soul. You are bigger than any problem that exists, because problems are temporary, and you can make a habit of identifying with the lasting happiness that is within you, rather than your problems.
Ann.

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Changing from Thinking Small to Thinking Big with My Career – Week one – 52 Weeks to Optimizing Yourself

Thinking Big with my career

Thinking Big with my career

For ‘52 Weeks to Optimizing Yourself’ in 2014, I am going to think big when working on my weekly goals to improve my life in the areas of: personal, financial, career, fun, relationships, intellectual, physical, mental, spiritual and health.

We have a natural desire to expand our lives and attract more good into them, and the higher we aim, the more good we will attract.

For Week One of optimizing yourself, I am going to expand my thinking and think big with my career. My three sons are getting older, and my youngest son will be finishing high school this year, which gives me more time to lunge into my career goals in a big way, so I am gathering the tools I need to help me do so.

I received a book on success in business as a gift last month, which I am going to read this week, and learn ways to think big with upgrading my website, blog and writing, and improve my online social media presence, and also learn tips on marketing, negotiating and presentation.

I will let you know how thinking big about my career goes next week.

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Happy New Year 2014! – 52 Weeks to Optimizing Yourself – Week One

Happy 2014

Happy 2014


The next 52 weeks are filled with promise. A new year’s resolution is a promise to yourself, to start doing something you want to do, or stop doing something you don’t want to do. With a positive attitude and a sense of well-being, I hope you will have a year of optimizing yourself.

A year can feel like an eternity to commit to a goal. We are always evolving, and our goals are always changing too.

The goal you set at the start of the year may lose its’ urgency by the end of the year.

As I reflect back on my 52 weeks of optimizing yourself for 2013, I sometimes found it difficult to work on my goals for even one week, but by setting the goal, I remembered to work on it for the rest of the year, while also working toward other goals, because many of my goals are linked together.

This year, with a brand new 52 weeks of optimizing yourself ahead of me, I am going to create a habit of thinking big to achieve my goals, because I already know what happens when I think small.
This year I am choosing to go big or go home!

Innovators dare to think big:

Some men look at things the way they are and ask why? I dream of
things that are not and ask why not? -Robert Kennedy

For some of my life goals, I already think big, but other times I settle for less than reaching my full potential. Since I have nothing to lose by thinking big in all my goals, and potentially much to gain, I feel I owe it to myself to try.

Jumping off my comfortable path will help me build momentum to move forward and experiment.

By forming new ways to reach my goals each week, I will try something different to see if I get a different result.

For week one, I am going to note down all the goals that I need to think big on, and as the 52 weeks unfold, begin working on each one to continue to optimize myself. I will let you know how it goes next week.

I am wishing everyone a year filled with peace and love, and may your reality be health and happiness in 2014!

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