We are social creatures and our boundaries tell others what we think is okay for us and what is not okay.
They help us know who we are.
They also help us form authentic relationships with other people, as defining what makes us happy and what doesn’t, increases understanding.
We cannot set boundaries for other people, only for ourselves.
Without boundaries, chaos prevails.
Tom Whitehead from The Hakomi Institute says that if someone steps over the line, we may not be able to see the line but we can feel it or sense it.
Our boundaries aren’t static but change along with us. Boundaries protect us from things that feel bad for us. They push us to seek out people who support us.
Some people may disagree with your boundaries but only you can decide what your needs are. Your boundaries help you get your needs met so you can live in harmony instead of chaos.
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