Are Women Finding Mentors to Model Their Success On?

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Success gurus like Tony Robbins say you need to find a mentor who did what you want to do in life and model what they did.

It’s a way of short-cutting the process to success by not trying to re-invent the wheel yourself.mentor-2063045_1920.png

There are some outstanding female mentors like J.K. Rowling and Oprah Winfrey, but there are way more male mentors to model career success on.

Men can be mentors to women to a degree, but there are unique aspects to being a successful woman that relate to biology that men haven’t experienced so women are better at teaching us about those things.

Tony Robbins says you need to immerse yourself in the lives of your mentors on-line and find out what they did, because success leaves clues. By reading their books and listening to their interviews you can see and feel what makes them masters at what they do in all the little details, and you can model your behavior on that.

One ‘mentoress’ I have in the field of media and publishing is Ariana Huffington.

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Say what you want about the tactics of Ariana Huffington, she is one of my mentoresses.

She is one of the most influential people in the media – male or female. She launched The Huffington Post, one of the most popular websites on the internet, She transformed journalism into engaging, personality driven entertainment. She was guilty of playing favorites with people like the exiled Dalai Lama, but to be fair all the male news-moguls likely had a code to protect their friends in the past as well.

Leadership is tough for everyone, and she is one tough female cookie, who has been burned many times.

She is now 66 years old and makes me forget about the worship of youth in our culture, as she rocks her age and combines it with the eye of experience.

She gives me hope to carry on with blogging in middle age.

After she resigned from ‘The Huffington Post’, she headed up ‘Thrive Global’, a wellness media company focusing on helping people get enough sleep, and sells pillows with the quote: “sleep your way to the top”.

What I most admire about Ariana is her style. Mixing the vulnerability of a woman and a mother, with a warrior role in the competitive ring with the big boys takes balls.

Her curiosity helps her grow, and her determination to turn her failures into a part of her future success is why she continues to thrive.

Some of her quotes resonate with me and likely the other 50 percent of the female population that she speaks to:

“Fearlessness is like a muscle. I know from my own life that the more I exercise it the more natural it becomes to not let my fears run me.”

“Trying to be Supermom is as futile as trying to be Perfect Mom. Not going to happen.”

“I think while all mothers deal with feelings of guilt, working mothers are plagued by guilt on steroids!”

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A Resume Is About What You Have To Give

A resume is about your skills

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Resumes 101:

As graduation season approaches, many young people begin their job search.  Perhaps you are seeking a seasonal job before heading to college, or are applying for your first full-time job in the workforce. The following are some tricks to help you stand out from the crowd on your job search.  Congratulations and good luck!

A resume is a short read for a time strapped employer, it is 1 or 2 pages long, detailing what you have to offer this employer to help their business, in a clear, neat, easy to read, and error free document.  It is not only about what job you want to get, it is also about what you can give, and you show this on your resume by demonstrated skills and accomplishments that are transferable to a new job.

  1. Contains a sentence that says what your job objective is – what position you are applying for, and why they need to hire you, rather than the other 100 people who emailed resumes to their inbox.
  2. It is constructed with descriptive action words and adjectives showing your enthusiasm and skills for getting the job done. If your employment experience is limited, use transferrable skills acquired from babysitting, paper routes, hockey teams or volunteer work.
  3. A quality resume alone won’t get you noticed, you need to send out quantities of resumes to increase your odds of landing a job interview.  On average, for each 10 resumes you send out, two employers will respond.
  4. Tailor the resume to which job you are applying for, and in some cases, send in a different resume for each job.  For example, if you have a lot of experience in a field of work you are applying for, list your work experience first, and education second.  However, if you have limited experience in your field of study, and need relevant work experience to match your educational qualifications, list education first, and work history second.  Your goal is to make an impression in the first 30 seconds of an employer considering your resume, to make him or her want to continue reading, so you have to grab them with the skills or education that are most desirable to that employer.
  5. If you do get called to come in for an interview, remember to dress appropriately for the job you are applying for.  Wear clean clothes similar to what the current employees at that workplace wear, have neat hair, turn off your mobile device and remember to thank the employer for their time at the close of the interview.    A follow-up thank you email with a “looking forward to hearing from you soon” comment is also a nice touch.

Blog Road Trip – Change Is The Journey

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Your are changed by the journey

For a successful road trip, it is best to pack light, because the most essential items, such as: curiosity, open mindedness, and willingness to learn, are not found in your suitcase.  These tools enable you to stumble upon surprises on your journey that are so exquisite, they transform you, and upon your return home, you feel compelled to share the wealth of your experience with others.

By attending seminars, panel discussions, workshops, and community events during the past month, I have met people who are working to make a difference in the world, by giving their time, their talent, their leadership, and their money.  Many are also doing fulfilling work and making money.

At institute B in Vancouver, I attended the screening of “Not Business as Usual”, and the panel discussion that followed, and had a guest blog posted on the Institute B website.  Here is the link to my blog: http://www.instituteb.com/the-passionate-fans-of-conscious-capitalism/.  You can watch the film on their website as well.  This is an organization that is changing capitalism, and creating a culture where business for profit is also purpose driven.

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DJ’s Deth Klown at Clayton Community Festival

At ‘The Surrey Steps Up Youth Awards’, I met the youth space group, who are fundraising to create a safe, sober, space for teens in the White Rock/ South Surrey.  The blog post was published in The Semi-Ahmoo Straight newsmagazine. Here is the link to the blog post –  http://annhoy.com/working-to-create-a-safe-sober-space-for-teens-in-their-community-by-ann-hoy/

With stops at the brand new Surrey City Hall, The Clayton Festival for families, The Cloverdale Rodeo, with a 68 year tradition of community pride, and entertainment, and The Louise Hay ‘I Can Do It’ Conference in Vancouver, with keynote speaker Wayne Dyer, it has been an interesting and informative journey.

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Learning at The I Can Do It Conference, Vancouver

In addition, I have been following media personalities on Twitter, at  @AnnHoyBlog, who use their influence to make the world better.  It only takes one person to make a change,and it is more about how the journey changes you than the destination you reach. After 242 blog posts, and 200,000 page views on AnnHoy.com, I am taking a break from sawing to sharpen the saw.  As Burton Rascoe said, “A writer is working even when he is staring out the window”.  Your observations are translated onto the page when you meet like-minded people, like the alchemy that turns base metals into gold.

Taking time to reflect, has helped me plan how to transform my blog to one that raises business consciousness up, as we spend a large part of our lives at work.  More about the blog makeover will follow. Have a great day!

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Redefining Success – Still Making Mistakes – W. Brett Wilson Book Review By: Ann Hoy

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Finding The Way to Work/Life Balance

As mentioned on my previous blog post, I won a contest to have lunch with W. Brett Wilson, this month.  I watched The Dragon’s Den tv show where Brett was a panelist many times, but since I will be meeting him, I read his book:  “Redefining Success, Still Making Mistakes” and wrote a review.

I don’t go too deep into the subject of business on my blog, other than to promote wealth consciousness and the law of attraction.  But reading the book made me aware of the importance of ‘business consciousness’.

The book contains a wealth of entrepreneurial information, but, on a deeper level, the book explores some of the same topics that my blog does:  personal growth and development, optimizing your time, loving yourself, recognizing your ego, positive energy, fulfillment, nurturing your mental, physical and emotional health, love of pets and family, and forgiving yourself and others.

The book illustrates that we can be proud of our business achievements, while feeling pain in our personal lives, but if we are willing to change the things we can, we can harmonize our work and life, and achieve true success in both.

Book Review of : “Redefining Success, Still Making Mistakes”  By: W. Brett Wilson

Reviewed By:  Ann Hoy

Penguin Books

$20.16 Amazon.ca (hardcover) – Amazon review rating: 4 out of 5 stars

$14.44 Chapter’s on sale (paperback)

W Brett Wilson had an insatiable drive to succeed in business, and became one of the top entrepreneurs and philanthropists in Canada.  But his drive to achieve outward success, took a toll on him and others, and left him feeling “surprisingly hollow”.  The highs and lows on this investment bankers’ road to success, went up and down like the stock market, and taught him the importance of investing in his most precious assets – his health and relationships.  The main theme of this book is how he manages to balance his inner self with his outer self, to find the path to authentic success.

This book can be found in the business section of the book store, and contains a lot of business advice, but it also contains a lot of life lessons. It appeals to entrepreneurs who are inspired by Brett’s journey to become one of the top investment bankers in Canada, and to fans of the CBC’s Dragon’s Den, where Brett was a panelist who made deals with the contestants. He devotes about fifty pages of the book to describe those deals.  It also appeals to philanthropists, interested in how Brett’s generosity combined with marketing mojo helped to raise tens of millions of dollars for charities “to make the world a better place”.  While readers may not be able to relate to making million dollar deals in the boardroom, they can relate to the feeling that their life/work priorities are misplaced and need to be re-aligned.

Brett says that students should be taught how to make money in school, so when I finished reading the book, I gave it to my teenage son to read.  Being a man of action, and not only words, Brett opened The Wilson Centre for Entrepreneurial Excellence at his alma mater, The University of Saskatchewan, so students could meet with the business community to share ideas and network with researchers, mentors, and possible investors.

Brett espouses the values of hard work, honesty and giving back to the community in the book, which were instilled in him during his upbringing in North Battleford, Saskatchewan, by his parents – a social worker mom and salesman father.  Brett lived those values, and carried them with him while initiating deals on a handshake, even as co-founder of FirstEnergy, the investment bank “with a conscience” in the lucrative oil and gas industry in Calgary, Alberta.

Brett also describes his mistakes – his adrenaline powered, all out work obsession, led to wealth, awards, and celebrity, but he neglected his inner self, and years of not spending time with his wife and three growing children eventually destroyed his marriage, and left him depressed.  He sought treatment for being a workaholic, cut back on his work hours when he got joint custody of his children, and worked on recovering his relationship with them, only to get diagnosed with prostate cancer.

This is the turning point in 2001, when the magnanimous spirit who had donated so much of his time and money to help others is battling cancer himself.  Instead of turning another’s  failing business around, he must now turn his own life around, to optimize his physical, emotional, and intellectual health. “Sometimes your greatest hardships lead to your greatest triumphs”, said Brett.

The book ends when he finds his path to health and happiness, has a strong bond with his children, and realizes the truth of what Ralph Waldo Emerson said: It’s not what you have, it’s who you are” that counts.

This thought-provoking book has inspired me to study more about entrepreneurship, marketing, philanthropy and work/life balance, in the coming months, and to incorporate these topics into my 52 weeks of optimizing yourself posts on my blog this year.

Photo of cover: Ann Hoy