The Solution to Your Problems is Within You

Solutions are Within You

Solutions are Within You


Most of our problems exist in our minds, and are self-created. When we obsess about them, we allow them to rent space in our heads,where they germinate, and spring up in our words and actions. Here are some ways to uproot the weeds of problems before they take over your contentment:

Live in The Present:
It’s not so much the problem, but our thoughts about the problem that hurt us. Everything is fine in the present moment, but if we dwell on the past, or feel anxious about the future, we sow the seeds of unhappiness. When an issue arises, our memory automatically calls up information that is relevant to it, and we see it the same way again, according to Psychology Today. Reset your brain to the present, and describe the issue in a different way, and you will find a new solution.

“Our problems are man-made, therefore they may be solved by man. And man can be as big as he wants. No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings.”
John F. Kennedy

Maintain a Positive CAN Do outlook:
Problems are small leaks that you can quickly patch and forgive, and return to steering the ship towards your dream life. Focus on what you CAN change in life, and change it. Often it’s when you’re in the shower, or doing something that doesn’t require too much mental activity, and your mind is relaxed, that a brilliant and creative solution comes to you.

Change Your Attitude:

Framing an issue as good or bad depends on your attitude about it. If a problem occurs, instead of reacting emotionally, look for the cause, as that’s where the solution lies. Many problems arise from a misunderstanding on both sides, including yours. Saying things out of emotion can destroy a friendship of many years. Emotions are felt in your body – jealousy shows up in your stomach as a burning sensation; anger makes your head feel hot. Detach from your thoughts, and return to positive energy and respond from love.

Sleep on It:
A problem seems worse if you are in a bad state of mind. If you are tired, or in a low mood, step back, go for a walk in nature, take a nap, or get a good sleep, and respond with care once you feel rested. If you look for the good in a situation, you will find it; and it’s impossible to feel miserable when you focus on your blessings.

A problem may be a blessing in disguise if there is a lesson to learn, or if you learn to work around problems. You may learn that you are taking yourself too seriously. In hindsight, some of your biggest laughs will come from things you once considered as problems.

John Lennon said: “There are no problems, only solutions.”

Seek the Solution:
Seeking a solution attracts a solution to you. You deserve happiness, and solutions, not problems. You are responsible for your happiness, and instead of dwelling on problems in your mind, get out of your mind, and feel the love and forgiveness in your soul. You are bigger than any problem that exists, because problems are temporary, and you can make a habit of identifying with the lasting happiness that is within you, rather than your problems.

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Optimizing Yourself – Week 43 – Oct 14 – Oct 20,2013 – My Imagination Paints My Dream

Paint your mind's dreams

Paint your mind’s dreams

“I dream of painting and then I paint my dream”

Vincent Van Gogh

For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I am going to paint my dreams in my mind.  I am going to dream in colors of  ocher and magenta, feel the beauty in the painting’s texture and tone, and imagine that I already have my dream.  They say that what you can conceive, you can achieve, so I am going to write down my dreams in a dream journal each day, and take a few minutes to meditate on them.   I will feel the clothes I am wearing, see the location I am in, and taste the food I am eating.  We are all artists painting dreams in our minds, and  if we dream  with no limits, our positive thoughts can create our own masterpiece, that is uniquely ours.  I will let you know how it goes next week.

Review of “You and Your Future”, By: Georgia Nicols

You and Your Future book review

You and Your Future is witty and apt

I digested all 608 delicious pages of “You and Your Future, by Georgia Nicols this week, for my 52 weeks to optimizing yourself topic: “Read More Books”.  Each evening, as night became morning, my eyes closed, and then the book closed.

Every culture has an astrological system to explain our connection to the solar system. Astrology explains how the positions of the planets at our birth connects to our life, and how the planetary cycles predict future activity. Astrologists draw from ancient wisdom, or what skeptics call superstition, but we are fascinated with our connection to the universe, and that is why astrology remains extremely popular, and is so much fun.

This book is a good read whether you follow your horoscope or not. There’s nothing funnier than seeing all the foibles of my Aquariousness. With humor and pathos, Georgia makes you laugh at your own quirks and those of your family and friends.  Georgia’s gift is to help us understand ourselves and each other through the study of astrology.


Capturing the essence of each sign, Georgia shows how each sign interacts in various roles, going back to 1985, then forecasting ahead to 2025. It includes a treasury of quotes from famous people who are typical examples of their sign.  Even skeptics will recognize themselves in this book.

I found it touching the way Georgia tries to lighten the load of her readers like a good friend, giving tips on how to be happier in your own skin.  She hopes the book:“Can help you learn more about yourself, help you to better plan your future, and help you to get a better handle on your life.”

The book is organized in the same format for all twelve zodiac signs, and you can skip through easily for reference and refer back to it for years to come.

The position of the sun when we were born is our sign, and represents our personality. The moon represents our feelings, but our rising sign is the mask we present to the world, or our “game face”.  The book has a chart to calculate your rising sign.  Each sign has a ruling planet, and the sun and moon are known as “planets” in astrology.

Each sign also has an opposite sign in the zodiac, but they are like two ends of a plank that share the same energy.  The twelve signs are on six planks as follows, and to live better, we should be more like our opposite sign:

Aries…….Libra,   Taurus…..Scorpio,   Gemini…..Sagittarius, Cancer….Capricorn,
, Virgo…..Pisces

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Here are some goodies about your sign that are in the book:

Aries (Mar 21 – Apr 19) likes winning, being first, and is courageous, but can be hot tempered, and to be happier they will benefit from practicing patience.

Taurus (Apr 20-May 20) is ruled by Venus, the God of beauty and love, and likes the good things in life.  To be happier, and to avoid being defined by material things, which bring pleasure, they can perform acts that bring them true happiness, like helping a loved one.

Gemini (May 21-June 20) likes witty people and lively conversation, is a great communicator, but may be looking for their “twin”, to complete them, so have a “grass is always greener” outlook.  Happiness comes from practicing acceptance, gratitude and appreciation for what they are and have.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22) is the nurturer of the zodiac and likes sailing and boats. Their sign is ruled by the moon, so they are moody, and tenacious, and to be happier they can learn to let go of hurts and painful experiences like things people say or do, and live in the present.

Leo (July 23 – Aug 22) is the limelight, and loves movies, compliments, and is generous and warm-hearted. Their pride can be an obstacle, so the way to be happier, is to realize that they are special, but so is everyone else

Virgo (Aug 23 – Sept 22) drives for perfection, like pets and a clean house and is altruistic. To be happier, they can become less self-critical by doing visualizations to increase their love for themselves and others.

Libra (Sept 23 – Oct 22) likes beauty, nice restaurants and nice clothes. They dislike arguments. To be happier, they can let go of relationships if they are making them give up their individuality and power.

Scorpio (Oct 23 – Nov 21) likes Halloween, art and poetry, is accomplished and sexy. Their passionate intensity is their strength, but also their biggest problem.  Therefore, to be happier, they can stay in the present moment and not focus on the wrongs of the past or fear of the future.

Sagittarius (Nov 22 – Dec 21) likes animals, travel, the outdoors, and is ruled by Jupiter (love), but they can hide from their own painful emotions and those of loved ones with their easy breezy attitude.  To be happier, it’s better to acknowledge that those painful feelings are real.

Capricorn (Dec 22 – Jan 19) likes tradition, reading, painting, music and is the ruler of structure.  To be happier, and to gain more self-respect, they can focus on all the things they get accomplished in a day.

Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 18) likes gadgets, planes and new inventions, rules astrology and buzzes with electricity, (my feet get shocks when I walk near power lines).  They want to make the world better, but can be rebellious. To be happier, they should ask why they sabotage their success – do they want success or not, does it limit their freedom, or do they fear it?

Pisces (Feb 19 – Mar 20) likes shoes, dancing, fantasy and make-believe, but likes to escape unpleasantness.  To be happier, they can use their ability to fantasize to bring good results to their life, and use their compassion to do something kind for someone else.

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