Review of Week 16 – Open Space In My Heart For Blessings

Blessings Cupboard

Making Space in My Blessings Cupboard

For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I cleaned out the cupboard in the laundry room where I put everything that I don’t know what to do with. I call it my procrastination cupboard, full of stuff I haven’t decided to throw out yet. It is where I look, if someone asks me where that thing-a-ma-gig is. As the old saying goes “if Mom can’t find it no-one can”.

It is one of the last vestiges of disorder in my house, and clinging to the stuff, feels like I am holding on to the past.

So when Pablo Coelho said that by purging what isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful, we will open space in our hearts for blessings, this was the perfect place for me to start.

I found a marionette puppet of Woody from Toy Story, which would be joyful to a small child, but not my adult children. I found a black plastic holder for je ne sais quoi, that is also getting the deep six. That blue plastic basket that was never beautiful, useful, or joyful, has also gotta go. There were two empty boxes, and a box of pencil crayons, and as soon as I throw them out, someone will ask me for them, but even if I have to buy new pencil crayons, I can’t hang on to stuff in case someone someday might need it.

I felt so good cleaning out the cupboard that I am going to rename it a more positive name – the blessings cupboard, as Pablo said blessings will come if I make space for them. <3 photo credit: -PinkFarasha.* via photopin cc

Review of Week 7 – Go BIG With Changing The Words “If Only” To “Next Time”

Love of Fate

Love The Hand You Are Dealt

This week, when I had thoughts like: “If Only I hadn’t broken my laptop charger, to “Next time I will not chop the chord up inside the motion furniture when I sit down, I realized that I can’t change what has happened, and it is a waste of my energy to regret it.

I was reminded of the ancient Roman philosophy, and the Latin words: “Amor fati”, meaning “love of fate”.

Instead of regretting the past, and wasting time worrying about things I can’t change, I can embrace them as a necessary part of my journey. All my experiences, good and bad, are lessons that have have shaped me and helped me arrive at the present. If I can love everything, good and bad, and see the value in what it has taught me, I can stop looking back, and be better today than I was yesterday.

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The Solution to Your Problems is Within You

Solutions are Within You

Solutions are Within You

 

Most of our problems exist in our minds, and are self-created. When we obsess about them, we allow them to rent space in our heads,where they germinate, and spring up in our words and actions. Here are some ways to uproot the weeds of problems before they take over your contentment:

Live in The Present:
It’s not so much the problem, but our thoughts about the problem that hurt us. Everything is fine in the present moment, but if we dwell on the past, or feel anxious about the future, we sow the seeds of unhappiness. When an issue arises, our memory automatically calls up information that is relevant to it, and we see it the same way again, according to Psychology Today. Reset your brain to the present, and describe the issue in a different way, and you will find a new solution.

“Our problems are man-made, therefore they may be solved by man. And man can be as big as he wants. No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings.”
John F. Kennedy

Maintain a Positive CAN Do outlook:
Problems are small leaks that you can quickly patch and forgive, and return to steering the ship towards your dream life. Focus on what you CAN change in life, and change it. Often it’s when you’re in the shower, or doing something that doesn’t require too much mental activity, and your mind is relaxed, that a brilliant and creative solution comes to you.

Change Your Attitude:

Framing an issue as good or bad depends on your attitude about it. If a problem occurs, instead of reacting emotionally, look for the cause, as that’s where the solution lies. Many problems arise from a misunderstanding on both sides, including yours. Saying things out of emotion can destroy a friendship of many years. Emotions are felt in your body – jealousy shows up in your stomach as a burning sensation; anger makes your head feel hot. Detach from your thoughts, and return to positive energy and respond from love.

Sleep on It:
A problem seems worse if you are in a bad state of mind. If you are tired, or in a low mood, step back, go for a walk in nature, take a nap, or get a good sleep, and respond with care once you feel rested. If you look for the good in a situation, you will find it; and it’s impossible to feel miserable when you focus on your blessings.

A problem may be a blessing in disguise if there is a lesson to learn, or if you learn to work around problems. You may learn that you are taking yourself too seriously. In hindsight, some of your biggest laughs will come from things you once considered as problems.

John Lennon said: “There are no problems, only solutions.”


Seek the Solution:
Seeking a solution attracts a solution to you. You deserve happiness, and solutions, not problems. You are responsible for your happiness, and instead of dwelling on problems in your mind, get out of your mind, and feel the love and forgiveness in your soul. You are bigger than any problem that exists, because problems are temporary, and you can make a habit of identifying with the lasting happiness that is within you, rather than your problems.
Ann.

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