Review of Week 16 – Open Space In My Heart For Blessings

Blessings Cupboard

Making Space in My Blessings Cupboard

For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I cleaned out the cupboard in the laundry room where I put everything that I don’t know what to do with. I call it my procrastination cupboard, full of stuff I haven’t decided to throw out yet. It is where I look, if someone asks me where that thing-a-ma-gig is. As the old saying goes “if Mom can’t find it no-one can”.

It is one of the last vestiges of disorder in my house, and clinging to the stuff, feels like I am holding on to the past.

So when Pablo Coelho said that by purging what isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful, we will open space in our hearts for blessings, this was the perfect place for me to start.

I found a marionette puppet of Woody from Toy Story, which would be joyful to a small child, but not my adult children. I found a black plastic holder for je ne sais quoi, that is also getting the deep six. That blue plastic basket that was never beautiful, useful, or joyful, has also gotta go. There were two empty boxes, and a box of pencil crayons, and as soon as I throw them out, someone will ask me for them, but even if I have to buy new pencil crayons, I can’t hang on to stuff in case someone someday might need it.

I felt so good cleaning out the cupboard that I am going to rename it a more positive name – the blessings cupboard, as Pablo said blessings will come if I make space for them. <3 photo credit: -PinkFarasha.* via photopin cc

Do You Live on The “Someday I’Il” Philosophy?

We all do it – put off a responsibility until later because we don’t feel like doing it now.

But when we avoid paying the utility bill, for example, we receive an overdue notice, and eventually a disconnection notice, which increases our stress.

“Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the “someday I’ll” philosophy.” –Denis Waitley,  (Author of The Psychology of Winning)

Mark Kennedy says these four tips will help you overcome the habit of putting things off:

1)        Say “I choose” rather than “I have to” when referring to duties, so it doesn’t sound like you are being forced to do something.

2)        Focus on STARTING a project, not FINISHING a project, because it sounds like it will take too long to complete it.

3)        Focus on repeatedly starting something. This revs up your motivation, and finishing creates stress.  “When can I start?” is what you ask yourself, and break the project down into
smaller pieces so it’s not overwhelming.

4)        Schedule in your playtime first, before you tackle your duties and then it  gives you something to look forward to.  This helps you avoid burnout, and lets you manage your work time.