Coffee Headaches: How I Overcame The Incurable Pain

Coffee Headaches

My behavior doesn’t define me, my ability to change it does


After trying unsuccessfully to quit coffee for three months, I quit in ten minutes.

How did I do it?

I did it with the help of my three sons.

The idea of quitting coffee had been percolating in my mind for a while, and the boys knew it.

On our way to the park one day, I stopped at a coffee shop to grab a coffee. It was a scalding hot day in July.

My middle son said: “Why do you need a coffee on such a hot day?”

“Don’t you want a cold drink instead?” said the oldest.

Then the youngest said: “Didn’t you say you were quitting coffee, Mom?”

I always told them to do what they say they’re going to do, and I wasn’t following my own advice.

Worse than failing to quit coffee, was failing to lead by example. And I was being held accountable.

Why quit coffee? The adverse side effects:

1. The shaking hands after drinking three cups. 2. The “coffee headaches” if I didn’t drink a cup upon waking up. 3. The coffee cravings that felt like I wasn’t choosing coffee- it was choosing me.

I quit coffee that moment in the parking lot, but the shift in my behavior came with side effects.

I didn’t drink coffee that day, or the next day, or the day after that. I had a coffee withdrawal headache that continued for three days. But on the fourth day, my coffee headache was gone.

My new habits no longer revolved around drinking coffee. I didn’t miss the smooth, dark, warm, aromatic beverage — much!

I started drinking water or tea instead.

I knew what I had to do, but it was the guilt from my family that made me commit.

My behavior didn’t define me, my ability to change it did.

In the end, I quit for love. Love for myself and my kids.

Once I was freely choosing what to drink, I found that coffee really wasn’t my cup of tea.

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Review of Week 9 – Optimizing Yourself – Going BIG With Building an Inspirational Wall

This week I gathered photos and sayings and pictures and books to hang up on my Inspiration Wall, to remind me of all the inspiring people and wisdom and knowledge that make me continue to learn and grow in life. The pictures are of mentors that I have known, as well as inspirational people that I have never met, but they have changed the world for the better.

I also had a book signed this week by a philanthropy mentor, Brett Wilson, and I ordered some inspirational books that were out of stock from the bookstore. In the coming weeks, I will get it all up on the wall. What I learned is the common theme in the messages is “Don’t Quit”, there will always be obstacles, but they are temporary, so keep going, don’t lose hope, and you’ll get there.