Boundaries Help You Define Your Relationships

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We are social creatures and our boundaries tell others what we think is okay for us and what is not okay.
They help us know who we are.

They also help us form authentic relationships with other people, as defining what makes us happy and what doesn’t, increases understanding.

We cannot set boundaries for other people, only for ourselves.

Without boundaries, chaos prevails.

Tom Whitehead from The Hakomi Institute says that if someone steps over the line, we may not be able to see the line but we can feel it or sense it.

Our boundaries aren’t static but change along with us. Boundaries protect us from things that feel bad for us. They push us to seek out people who support us.

Some people may disagree with your boundaries but only you can decide what your needs are.  Your boundaries help you get your needs met so you can live in harmony instead of chaos.

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Bettering Yourself – Week 34 – Aug 19 – 25, 2013 To Recognize and Communicate my Needs

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Ask and you shall be calm

For this week’s bettering yourself challenge, I am working on getting better at identifying my emotional needs and communicating those needs to others.  

Unmet needs create emotional upset, says Marshall Rosenburg in his book “Non Violent Communication”,  and to feel more emotionally balanced we can ask for what we need.

He says by asking for the behavior we want as specifically as possible, we are more likely to get it.

This week, I am going to challenge myself to ask for what I need in my relationships at home.  I will let you know how it goes next week.