Your Problems Are But A Drop Of Water In The SEA Of Life

Your problems are but a drop of water

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Have you noticed that when you have a problem people will sympathize with you initially, but soon they’re back to the daily grind, and you lose that support that you so desperately seek from them? It is because they have their own equal and opposite problems. To dwell on your problem, means they might drop the ball on their problem, in this continuous juggling game of life, and they have to keep their boat afloat.

To wallow in your misery along with you is not love. It anchors you to your problem. They care about you, and they want you to pull yourself out of your problem, because you are the only one who can pull yourself out. Others can help, but only you can do it. Maybe all you need to do is change your perspective. Maybe your so-called problem is the way you are seeing things. Your problem may turn out to be a blessing. Maybe it’s time for you to “Sea” Life’s Beauty.

Being happy is a choice. It is choosing to think positive thoughts from the second you open your eyes in the morning, no matter what your circumstances are. Yes, a choice. It is your attitude about your circumstances that matters. Is yours an attitude of gratitude? I found a book in the “discard” bin in the public library 20 years ago. I was a little low on confidence at the time, so I took it home, and it was so fascinating that I’ve read it 100 times over the years and it changed my life. It is ‘The Power of Positive Thinking’ by Norman Vincent Peale. It said that gaining faith in yourself is like a skill that you can practice until you get it right.

 

The book has a similar philosophy to the law of attraction. If your thoughts are positive, you attract positive energy back, so you might as well make it positive, because the alternative is worse. Your thoughts about what is good or bad are not always based on reality, but on your perception. The good news is, you can change your perception in a minute. Sometimes all it takes is to re-frame your thoughts and you will see your situation entirely differently, and you will see an abundance of good and opportunity instead of a shortfall. Go ahead and Soak Up Positive Energy.

A while back, my finances were a worry. I had a lot of credit card debt, but on paper, I owned 50 percent of an expensive property. I sold the property, bought a home with suites and lived in one of the suites, which was much smaller than the big house I had been living in. By downsizing, I was able to pay off my credit card, put some cash in the bank, and gain rental revenue to help pay my mortgage. I had the same amount of money as I did before the move, but my perspective changed. Instead of seeing a sea of red, I saw a stream of cash.

I recently wrote a post about living well, and a reader asked me to explain what living well meant to me. Here is a link to it: https://goo.gl/Km7l3t, What living well means to you is likely quite different from what it means to me. Please share what living well means to you, and here is my list:

Wisdom Of The Ocean Listicle: Living Well

1. Living well is appreciating what you have and attracting abundance.Complaining about what you lack is the law of lack, and it attracts more lack. This keeps you in the bilges, always bailing out the dirty water from the ship instead of sailing smoothly on by.

2. Living in the present is living well. This sounds obvious, but most people are distracted by regrets about the past that they can’t change, or worrying that something dreadful will happen in the future, that never actually happens. They are thinking about what they are going to say next in their conversations instead of listening to what people are saying to them, or romancing with their cell phones while sitting next to the person they love most in the entire world, instead of telling them they love them. Now is the only time you have to embrace life. Why is that the hardest thing to do? Your sailboat has it’s own pace. Don’t rush things with an engine. Go With The Flow and don’t get ahead of, or behind your own sailboat.

3. Living well is loving the voyage. Giving what you can to others after you have satisfied your own needs, and accepting their offerings to you and honoring the giver in them is love. Come Out of Your Shell and show love.

4. It is beautiful to be who you are and love who you are. Living well is cherishing the divine creation you are, and not measuring your worth based on your gender, age, weight, looks or bank account. Self-confidence attracts more self-confidence. To be proud of who you are is honoring your divine nature, which we all have inside of us. Be Shore of Yourself

5. Nurturing your health with mind, body and soul is Living Well. Healthy food and exercise are better than medicine from the pharmacy for your body. Lifelong learning by reading is medicine for the mind. Positive expansive thoughts about your purpose in life, and aligning your actions with your positive thoughts is medicine for your soul. Don’t Get Tide Down with a poor lifestyle

6. Living well means seeking your own approval over the approval of others. If they approve, awesome, if not, don’t sweat it. Do what you know is right for you. Likewise, don’t judge others when they do what’s right for them. Spend time doing what you love, as in Do What Floats Your Boat.

7. Oh yeah, and don’t be crabby – and take time to coast!

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Do You Want to Be a Hero? Live WELL

Heroes Live Well

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When you live in the past you live badly.

Your past is like a condensed movie of your life that flashes by the side of the highway as you speed by; the years passing by faster than street lights.

In the re-run of your life, you are embarrassed by your mistakes, and want to edit those scenes out, but you are an evolving organism, and learning hard lessons made you stronger.

Your shame made you aware, and your awareness made you forgive yourself and move forward, then you forgive other evolving organisms for their mistakes.

Looking back shows how far you have traveled on your journey. You have been altered by your experiences have altered you in the eternal classroom of life.

In the space-time continuum, your pit stop on earth can be free from regrets if you decide to search for ways to live WELL.

You were put on earth to be a hero. To reach your true potential. To become someone you admire.

To work hard doing what you love, maintain your body, expand your mind, and nurture your soul with positive thoughts and gratitude.

Honoring yourself transforms you into a tiny hero.

When you express yourself you light a tiny candle and your light spreads.

It illuminates the path of your future.

Death inches closer each day, kindling your urgency to live well – to love lots, and to value your life.

You don’t fear death when you are fully immersed in life.

You raise your standards, and perform brave deeds and noble acts.

Your plot has new twists. You adopt a dog. He has hero worship in his eyes for you. You feel good.

You show compassion to a person who needs some. You feel good.

Your struggle with life is gone when you do what feels good, and connect to others.

You remove your 3-D glasses and see things as they are. The world is beautifully imperfect.

You understand that everything happens for a reason. Chance occurrences benefit you.

You wouldn’t change your journey because it brings you to the movie of your future.

When your journey has ends you are a full grown hero. Mission complete.

When you love and live well, you die happy!

The last scene of your life is not a flashback, but a foreshadowing of your next journey. Your perspective has changed. Your body will dissolve, but your spirit will remain.

You are drawn to the warmth and peace of the ambient light from the screen. Love is everywhere. The music fades to a humming chorus and transitions you to a new time zone.

The credits roll. It’s a happy ending. You look forward to the after party!

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    Week 16 – Optimizing Yourself – Discard An Item A Day To Create BIG Space

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    Open Space In Your heart for Blessings

    This week, I am going to get rid of at least one item a day that is not useful, beautiful, or joyful, as Paulo Coelho says, in order to “open space in my heart for all the blessings” that this week will bring.

    What a positive feeling to open space in my heart for blessings by freeing up my environment of what doesn’t serve me. This fills me with joyful energy, as I am creating usefulness, beauty and joy in my environment and my life.

    I will let you know how discarding an item a day to create BIG space in my heart for blessings, goes next week

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    Review of Week 12 – Going BIG with Creating Positive Self-Talk

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    Do is better than try

    For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I changed to using positive self-talk words like: do, choose, proud, make, and when, on my to-do list, to motivate me to get tasks accomplished.

    Using decisive words left no doubt in my mind that I was going to accomplish tasks, helped me tackle little tasks easily, and the big ones didn’t seem as intimidating.

    Do – ask for help to lift up a king size wooden futon frame and clean under it.

    Choose – to eat meals at regular intervals and not skip meals

    Proud – feeling proud and reflecting on the things I have worked hard to achieve instead of downplaying them.

    Making time instead of not having time – By leaving no doubt that I was going to get a lot done, I completed a big sewing project this week, mailed items at the post office, ordered flowers for someone, bought computer software that I needed, wrapped items, had a celebration, printed off applications and helped fill them out, provided transportation to outings, and sorted through cupboards, drawers and closets.

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    Week 12 – Optimizing Yourself – Go BIG With Creating Positive Self-Talk

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    Reprogramming the brain for positive self-talk


    Behavioral researchers describe the human brain as the most powerful computer there is. We think up to 50,000 thoughts a day, but many of them are negative, and those thoughts are the basis of our self-talk dialogue that we all have throughout the day.

    Old programming from our past gets stored in our subconscious mind, and needs to be re-programmed, or updated to support our current reality, or our goals.

    The exciting news is that we can re-program our minds to think positive thoughts and create a new self-dialogue.

    This week I am going to create positive self-talk to motivate myself to achieve my current goals.

    Brain researchers tell us that our brain pays attention to what we tell it to do, so we need to use supportive words.

    I am going to swap the following words in my self-vocabulary this week, to add more awareness, certainty and resolve to what I am telling myself: I am going to use decisive words like “do” instead of “try”, and “choose” instead of “should”, and I’m “proud”, instead of I’m “only”, and I’ll “make” time instead of saying I “don’t have” time, and not “if” this happens, but “when” it happens.

    These words give positive direction to my brain and remove doubt, and help re-program the old thoughts that are no longer useful. I will let you know how it goes next week.

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    Review of Week 47 – Optimizing Yourself – Take Some Time “To Be”

    For this week’s optimizing yourself exercise, I took some time “to be”, and felt my energy return.

    Last week I knew I was physically tired from staying up late, but I didn’t realize I was mentally tired. I was researching for a project, and it took longer than I expected, then I didn’t get the project finished, so my negative feelings about it made me more tired.

    As Dr. Bruce Lipton says, our brain uses ¼ of our energy.*

    Once I took some time “to be”, my positive energy returned, and I was ready to tackle the project with confidence that I would get it done.

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